Holy Moly. I have two people in my life, one I know socially and and another I consider a good friend. One has a life-threatening illness in the prime of their life and the other experienced a life-altering change in social circumstances. Not small stuff, big stuff.
Ok, that's pretty vague. I don't know if they read this and I'd prefer to keep their business private here.
On the other hand..
I have people in my life who are immature whiners. And, not calling anyone out but seriously, if you've had your way paid to one of the top ten universities in the nation, have a decent job and you "can't figure out what to do with your life" and figure this gives you license to abuse the living bejesus out of folks close to you, abuse your body, etc. all in the name of "finding yourself" I have news for you:
Wake up. It's time to get real, you have the whole world right in your hands, commit to that big, scary dream, whatever it is and start down the path to making it happen. If it doesn't happen you'll know it and then it's time for Act II in life. And don't worry if you fail because life is pretty darn long.
Or, is the alternative sauntering around in a fully self-masturbatory life-style that may please friends, family and a few loser hangers on? Whilst whining of course.
You know who I (and everybody else) roots for in life ?
People that pick themselves off the ground when things are rough and get on with the business of living. Live like they mean it.
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I don't know if you were talking about me or not, but since I blog the drama I don't care if others do as well. You know me well enough Joe :)
I'm a big cry baby but HTFU when I need to...I suppose.
No matter how bad circumstances are, no one has the right to abuse others. This sounds like a pretty sad case.
What's unfortunate for the whiners out there is that they very possibly are seeking compassion but behaving in ways which make it impossible to get from anyone who can see past the BS.
To be fair, committing to the big, scary dream can be difficult - that is, "scary". Our society is selective in encouragement for such things. If the dream fits into normal social standards, then it's okay. If it's too extreme by some measure, then people will actively discourage it - until it's achieved, that is, and then the person achieving it is a hero who went against all odds - including society's initial view.
If I understand correctly, what you're suggesting only works for those who allow themselves to be unencumbered by societal pressure. For those who are mature. For those who know what they want and need. For those who are honest with themselves. For those who value life and want to live it to the fullest. And for those who don't whine. :-)
Kat, it's not about you, you don't whine.
Erin- I could not have pin pointed the root of why folks dilly dally in pursuit of the BHAG- Big, Hairy, Audacious Goal better myself !
Isn't it obvious? If I weren't scared, myself, I'd have no idea what I was talking about. ;)
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